Compare & Despair Syndrome...

Let’s face it.  There will always be someone who is smarter, richer, more beautiful, more famous, more fit, or SOMETHING we covet.  Always.  Isn’t that a relief?  It should be.  It takes the pressure off to be perfect or someone else which is impossible.  Each one of us is so profoundly and beautifully unique, you wouldn’t compare one rose to another based on beauty would you?  ALL roses are beautiful. So it really is silly to compare you to me and me to you.  

We can aspire to be MORE of who we already are but when you tread in the realm of wanting to be someone else, it is soul crushing.  Nothing will stomp out your fire of imagination, creativity, and love of life faster than comparison and its brother, envy. It is a complete energy drain. AND not only that, it is a slap in the face of the Creator.   
So rise up and use these feelings of inadequacy to optimize YOU.  Write a gratitude list.  Next write ALL of your best qualities and accomplishments, ALL of them.  Dig deep.  Now think about HOW you want to feel. Because underneath a feeling of inadequacy is a feeling of wanting.  What are those feelings? What do you long for? To feel empowered, valued, strong, affluent, innovative, connected, recognized, inspired, abundant, free, etc.  This is what you are searching for, really and truly.  Not more money. Longer and leaner legs. The spotlight. Our desires are all linked to a feeling and if you are able to identify that FEELING then you can start to work on how to create that feeling in your life without the attachment to something unhealthy and soul sucking!  

Healthy aspirations are soul affirming and they lift you up because they are in alignment with who you already are.  Give yourself the permission to expand your vision of who you could be if you were able to just remove the shackles of fear.  How can you be more true to yourself?  Where are you playing it small?  Just taking one baby step in that direction will give you the energy and fortitude to take the next bigger step.  Be grateful for YOUR journey and the path you are on, it is no better or worse than someone else’s journey no matter how it appears.  Have faith and love your SELF!

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